Conflicting Social Circles For Girls

i want to talk about social groups and conflict between them because of girls

something i've noticed lately. i already had alot of different social circles. lately im entering new ones and reinforcing other circles. working full time, i find it harder to keep in touch with everyone. so lately, i just been thinking about social circles in general and how i know its going to be inevitable that whenever i find a social circle of higher value, i would want to hang with them more and the circles of lower value will be more distant from me as time goes on.

well, while thinking about social circles, i've been thinking about how i've been running into several situations where there is a girl dating a guy in social circle A and there happens to be another guy from social circle B talking about his interests with the girl. often times, the two guys will not like each other, because either one is an EX, or one just does not care about what the other guy thinks of him.

one situation, T_ last week was talking about how he's interested in this girl C_L_, who my friend has been dating for several years now, they are most likely to get married. i was telling him that she's with a good friend of mine and that he prolly shouldn't mess around with her. although in reality, its absolutely fair game for him, because he might just turn out to be a better guy for her. another situation was, when i was telling T_ about how i was trying to see this girl E_ lately, and she just got out of a long relationship with one of his good friends. now im not exactly sure how their relationship broke off, but he was telling me how that girl was his boy's girls for a long time. felt a lil awkward for me since we both belong to other social groups with girls we are both trying to talk to.

another situation was when my friend C_ also talked about how he hated my other friend O_C_ because he slept with his girl before they started going out. i asked if he even knew O_C_ because i used to be good friends with him until we went to different schools. apparently, he doesn't know him at all, just doesn't like him because he had slept with his girl.

now, problems like this usually does not happen within social circles because nobody likes to cheat with a friend's girl. there was actually a time in K_'s social group where this happened and it was kind of devastating for the social circle as a whole. and obviously girls outside the social circle are all free game, no matter what other social circle they belong to.

now that i've explained the problem, what can these guys do about it? personally, i realize that every guy is lookin for girls to get with, and its literally impossible to look for local girls with no ties/history to people you might hurt. as long as a guy doesn't purposefully try to get on the bad side of another guy, i just dont think its worth fighting over girls because thats just being jealous and insecure. the girl can choose to be with who she wants, if the guy cant handle that, he needs to realize he has a personal problem, not a problem with the other guy. then, this all goes into blind spots and how girls choosing other guys affecting their reality in negative ways.

then again, this is also a natural problem since social circles are all protecting their resources and competing against other social circles for their resources, just the way it is i guess.